The first time I attended a church service I wore a suit and tie to church.
I was young and was only 18.
I didn’t know what to expect.
When I got to the front of the church I was surprised to see people who looked like me.
They had all these nice suits and ties and I was in a hurry to get to the next table.
But when I got there, I realized that they weren’t wearing suits and tights.
They were wearing a white suit with a big black tie.
And the church had a big, red curtain that went across the front and was closed with a red curtain, and the church was very big, so I thought that was very cool.
But the more I thought about it, the more it seemed to me that people weren’t dressed properly, and that I had to dress properly, too.
I went to the church with a little bit of self-consciousness, and I had this realization: How do I feel about this?
How do my body look in church?
What’s the right thing to wear?
I remember thinking, I’m going to try to do something about this.
But I didn’ think it would be so easy.
The first time we went to church, my parents asked me to come to their church to do my Bible study.
I don’t remember what they said to me.
I think it was, “If you can do it, why don’t you?”
But I was nervous, and my mother kept telling me that if I wanted to be a good Christian, I needed to be able to walk into a church and do what I was supposed to do in church.
She kept telling us, “This is your job, you’re supposed to pray.”
When I first went to a church, I was so nervous about it that I started to feel ashamed about my body.
I felt so bad about it.
But as I started wearing the suit, I started realizing that my body was not doing anything wrong.
I started thinking, What’s wrong with my body?
What does it have to do with my clothes?
When I went back to church with my parents, I told them, “I’m going into church with the intention of praying.
I’m not going to dress inappropriately.
I’ve seen enough of that.”
They were very supportive of it.
I remember one time when my mother came in and asked me if I had seen enough.
I said, “No, mom, you have to tell me what to wear.”
She looked at me like I had said something wrong, and she said, You’ve seen what you have.
You have to know what your body looks like.
My mother and I have never talked about it much, but I have seen other young women who are dressing in a way that is really unhealthy and that has the effect of not only degrading their bodies, but their sexuality.
One of the things I’ve learned from wearing suits at church is that I feel a sense of belonging.
It feels like I’m at home, even though I’m in a church that I’m wearing a suit.
I feel like the church has always had a role for me.
A friend of mine from college said to her: “I think a lot of women think that a suit is only for college girls.”
That’s what I think, too, because my college years were so stressful and lonely.
I got a lot out of wearing suits.
But if you look at it from the other side, what I feel is that the church is also a place where women are treated with respect and care.
This story was produced by PRI’s The Takeaway.
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